Have you ever been part of a chat room or forum focusing on a particular aspect of adoption? Maybe it was for parents of older children, those who came from China or Eastern Europe, adoptive parents who want to find birthparents or resolve post-adoption behavior issues, families hailing from different states or religions….
While the narrow focus is often helpful, sometimes it helps to discuss subjects with many different kinds of adoptive parents. It may be concerns about backgrounds of neglect, or how to put together a lifebook, or you want a recommendation for a neuropsych exam. Maybe it’s a call for photos of your child’s birthcountry, or how to celebrate an upcoming ethnic holiday, the right way to braid black hair, or if you should readopt once home.
You might simply need to know that others have gone through similar things, and come out alright.
If it takes a week to post your comment, or if all of the supposedly “supportive” people shoot you down, it doesn’t really work, does it? If you need updated info when a country is closing or suspending adoptions, time lags can seem like forever.
I believe it’s time to organize into a centralized adoption discussion board that’s user-friendly and adoptive-parent-friendly, a place where an adoption agency is not trying to convince you of something that is solely in their interest. It should be free, and easy to sign-in without knowing some sort of secret handshake.
Meanwhile, I enjoy our daily chit-chats, friends. I hope you do, too.
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