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Destinations, Dreams and Dogs - International adventure with a fast-track family (& dogs) of Old World values, adopting the Russian-Italian-American good life on the go…!

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Money Talks with Minnie the Moocher

Minnie the Moocher was a 1931 jazz song about a woman who begged for a living. In our family, it reminds us of Sashenka, 16-going-on-3. All she talks about is money and I wonder if it may be our fault. We don’t talk about finances non-stop. And we are not poor. So we try to…

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Kicking Chaos to the Curb

I have lowered the boom. We are quashing chaos. My children come from backgrounds where their lives were out of control. That’s putting it mildly. Ending up in the Russian orphanage system signaled a definite upturn in events for them, which only proves how chaotic things had become. It was desperate. Sad as that may…

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What’s the Worst That Could Happen in Our Kids’ Future?

Don’t answer that question.  We’re not talking about a life of crime, just everyday laissez-faire and ennui. The worst that could happen? I’m a glass-half-full kind of gal, so it’s not hard to imagine when it comes to our kids in their late teens and early twenties. All but one seem determined to head nowhere……

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Adoptive Families and the Holidays

It’s that time of year again. The time when we believe all will be merry and bright and instead, it often turns to miserable and broken. This is not just among adoptive families, any family might have an overload of stressful emotions during the go-go-go holidays, but adopted kids often bring their own issues to…

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Holiday Tug-of-War

In the US, there’s a lot of pushing and pulling that takes place during the winter holidays.  It happens in other countries, too, but here, there’s enough space to truly separate loved ones at special times.  Most of it is centered around the triad of Thanksgiving, Christmas/Hanukkah and New Years. If you’re married or engaged,…

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Dating as a Believer

The Bible, in essence, says very little about dating. In ancient times, young people tended to be married off by their parents, usually a teen girl in her mid-to-late teens to a man who had already established himself, in his twenties or thirties. And that was that. Be fruitful and multiply. Be fruitful and multiply?…

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Free Russian Language Lessons

Our four high school and college-age kids were taken by us to visit a kind Russian head-of-department at a prestigious university. He gave 30 minutes of his time to discuss with them the fact that Russian has just come up as #2 on the Strategic Languages List and how the US State Department cannot get…

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Basic Types of Adoptees & Their Issues

It may go without saying, yet we must state the obvious: becoming available for adoption means that something bad has happened. A parent died, a caregiver proved unsuitable for meeting basic needs, the child was found by the authorities to have been starved/abused/neglected/living in squalor, or any of a host of other horrific issues. There…

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Why Do Adopted Kids Turn Out Bad?

Whenever a new horror film is released, an anti-social, demon-possessed adoptee often figures prominently in a feature role. Is this fair? Is this accurate? Does this demonstrate many adoptive families’ experiences? Yes and no. Your mileage may vary. We can say that there is just as much likelihood of a biological child going astray as…

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Adoption and Long-Standing Jealousy Issues

I recall when our children came home from Russia as preteens. Some had constant jealousy issues: I had doled out more peas to one than another. Literally counting them on their plate, they were sure that I had planned on slighting them…. Years later, the same issues resurface repeatedly. No one is counting tiny bits…