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Committed First to Kids or Mate?

A lot of parents struggle with a very basic understanding of loyalty and commitment. Who comes first: the kids or the mate? I tend to revert to a very mature understanding of life, using a complex equation to solve the situation. I say: it all depends. As in: who came first, the chicken or the…

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Dogs Gone Wild

Our city house has a small backyard that’s fenced so the dogs can run and explore. The two Scotties, Misha and Grisha, have constant adventures as though the world were spreading before them. In reality, it’s a patch of grassy lawn, some flowers and veggies, raspberries that they love to pilfer, lots of trees around…

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Sashenka Turns 14

Our youngest, daughter Sashenka, turned 14. It was a week fraught with giddy highs and skipping gait, along with sullen lows. Birthdays never used to do that to her, but as a Russian adoptee, I had heard of this behavior in so many others before. They rued the day they were born because apparently, it…

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Meaningful Family Meals

Benedetto and I were raised in two different types of families. His felt that family meals were important events and did everything in their power to delay dinner until all of the kids came home. My family, on the other hand, came and went with an air of independence, while still enjoying most dinners together….

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Polygamy and Public Opinion

As with some reality shows, those centering around polygamy have become well-publicized train wrecks, or freak shows, if you will. The main point of “Sister Wives” or “My Five Wives” is to depict that polygamists are regular people, just like the rest of us. Right. You gotta be kidding. Instead, shows like this depict a…

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Sweet and Sour Anniversary Expressions

A friend of ours made a triple-layer anniversary cake for us and a gathering of friends—I didn’t even know that she could bake “official cakes”! A bit of coconut in the frosting and a cake that tasted almost angel-food-like—pretty apropos under the circumstances, right? The love, the labor, it was so sweet. Plus, our kids…

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The Adopted Child Behaviors

This, too, shall pass. Or, will it? Whole lotta adoptive parents asking the same questions. Is this normal toddler, adolescent, or teen behavior… or is it deep-seated and deep-rooted? Will it hinder or hold back the child… for life? Could be the effects of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) from a birth mother who drank. Might…

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An Anniversary to Remember

Around and around I walked in the greeting card aisle of a store, finally determining that the anniversary cards were a tiny section where another woman stood, perusing them. “Pardon me,” I remarked, “but would you happen to be in the anniversary section?” “Yes, there’s not that many…” she commented. “I see, it’s almost as…

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Positive Peer Pressure

How do we keep our kids on the straight and narrow in this day and age, you ask? Carefully, very carefully. In a nutshell, we limit their access to everything. The goal is to keep them safe until they can make wise decisions for themselves. Do we ever let them mess-up? Only every day. However,…

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A Teen Business Trip

Real life around our place is much more fascinating than fiction, any day. I shake my head along with the rest of you when I hear of developments, dilemmas, and doggy antics going on under our roof. The latest revolves around Petya, naturally, our eldest who tests the waters and blazes paths for the children…

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