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Fetal Alcohol Effects Mimicking Inebriation

For thousands of adoptive parents, watching their children struggle with issues from before  birth is not an easy thing, especially when it comes to Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS).  This is brain damage caused to the unborn baby by alcohol ingestion coming from the birthmother.

Apart from a miracle of God, FAS is incurable.  Strategies and therapies exist to help mitigate some of the effects of Fetal Alcohol, yet often, as adults, they still need to be monitored 24/7, or they will likely do something that may land them in jail.

What I never realized until today (duh!) is that FAS/FAE mimics inebriation.  It’s as though the alcohol which once flooded the fetus’s system… is never going away.

Think of a drunk and how they act.  Those are often the behavior issues of the FAS child (minus the staggering).  These are not kids who are willfully disobeying, although it seems that way.  They are out-of-control and have poor impulse control due to the alcohol indelibly imprinted on their system.

You’ve probably encountered the raging or who-cares behavior, memory lapses, inability to predict behavioral outcomes, cannot switch modes or transition easily, aggression, poor social behavior, inappropriate sexual behavior, talking to self, cannot understand consequences for behavior no matter how many times warned or reminded, inability to understand others, or make positive decisions.

That’s pretty much the life of the alcoholic.  And becomes the life of your FAS child who has never touched alcohol.

Yet may.  Because either way, the substance is somewhere, deep inside, lurking beneath the surface, eating them from the inside-out, reproducing and mimicking the life of the alcoholic.

 

 

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2 Comments : Leave a Reply

  1. avatar AP says:

    I think you have described our youngest child pretty well here. It makes me really sad.
    I used to get angry at what the birth parents did to their child. Now I get angry at what the birth parents did to MY child. I guess this means I continue to attach to a child who may never be capable of returning that affection.

    • avatar admin says:

      I hear you, AP! If I can’t always convince myself that some things “may be” beyond certain children’s reach, imagine what that feels like inside their minds… or the minds of onlookers who don’t understand that these kids’ brains are different. It’s truly a disability of sorts.

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