Happy New Year: Making Teachable Moments
Whether you’re a bio-parent or an adoptive-parent, holidays can prove to be rough. Different schedules leading to children’s dysregulation (if not parents’ dysregulation!) result. How to keep from going over the edge?
I like to schedule down-time for the kids to unwind over the winter break, while not allowing them to totally veg-out. That’s when they would get cranky and in the efforts of self-preservation, we don’t want to go there….
So they’ve been reading books, doing cross-stitch, sketching, telling their inner thoughts to the dogs, helping around the house, enjoying small outings, watching movies. I paint the girls’ fingernails, even though right now, I don’t have a minute to spare, I make the time. Less is more, but nothing would be not enough.
During drives in the car or get-togethers around family meals, we chat. I would call these teachable moments. All of us discuss dating, hobbies, life skills, values. Their guard is down and I feel like we can really connect.
The Bible encourages everyday talks with our children, teaching them the way of the Lord and wonderful words of life:
“Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.
Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” (Deuteronomy 11:18-19)
As the New Year begins, make time for things that matter.
Happy New Year, everyone!
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