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Monday Mottoes – #117

college_homeOver Thanksgiving break, our college-age son visited with another friend in university. Actually, vice-versa. In other words, the friend came home from school and saw our son, who is also in school, but not away from home.

Are you following this?

The two of them got together, Petya driving his friend to play tennis. A coach who had known the thtwo from their illustrious high school tennis careers greeted the friend warmly with a “Long-time-no-see”, inquiring about school as the two guys headed for the courts. According to their account, the pair had just as much fun talking as hitting balls.

The next day, we chatted with the friend’s parents. Their son seemed hesitant to return to school. He had enjoyed a tremendous visit with family and friends. Another student heading in the same direction would be driving him 4.5 hours to his campus where he was in a top engineering program. And now he found it hard to leave.

college_classIt’s precisely for feelings like these that we encouraged our kids to do their college close to home. We enjoy being together. We like for them to spread their wings incrementally. Why suffer homesickness? Does it make one a stronger person? Right about the time that young people become old enough to be helpful, they are whisked away to an artificial atmosphere where the only responsibility they have is doing their own laundry, or showing up to classes or the dining hall, while your loved ones are far, far away.

Conjures up many conflicting emotions.

Which brings us to today’s motto:

“To be human and to be adult means constantly to be in the grip of opposing emotions, to have quote-Stephen-Fry-to-be-humandaily to reconcile apparently conflicting tensions. I want this, but need that. I cherish this, but I adore its opposite too.” ~Stephen Fry

There you have it: grappling with opposing emotions. Maturity remains that sliding scale that adjusts when we are ready and has not so much to do with circumstantial stimulants as much as we give them credit. Maturity means rising to the challenges of life and taking care of business. It need not involve loss or heartache. Instead, it’s more about taking responsibility, a trait which may be developed near or far, in good times and in trying times. So why does our society push young adults away, precisely at the juncture when they are making some of the most important decisions of their lives?

Everybody has conflicting emotions at times. For family or friends to be close by at these critical moments is a strategic gift.

Happy Monday, everyone!


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