On the Eve of 16
It’s possible to obtain statistics on drug and alcohol use, as well as sexual activity patterns among high-schoolers. I can access forums where parents ask others’ opinions about their 16-year-old dating a 24-year-old and all I can imagine is that insane asylums now give their patients access to computers….
But try and come up with one positive fact online, and you’d be hard-pressed to find it. Usually, the good things can’t be found in statistics.
Mashenka came home to us from Russia when she had just turned 11. Now, five years later, at times I wonder how much progress we’ve made.
She does well in school. Most of the time, she is “with the program”. She still has no idea what to do with her life, probably because she avoids the unknown and stretching to learn or experience anything new.
I pray for her to grow to value herself, to realize that she’s got what it takes. And whatever she doesn’t have, she can develop. My goal is for her to be a strong young lady, one who is committed to God and who holds to her convictions. I want her to be comfortable with who she is, not being forced into any molds or expectations by those who don’t have her own best interests at heart.
May she always know that she’s loved and accepted. May she never have a hole in her heart. May she enjoy the thrill of accomplishment, of going places and doing things that matter. May her sense of purpose guide her to fulfillment.
Here, on the cusp of young adulthood, I wish that her path become smooth and plain before her. I pray that any struggles be of the best and noblest sort, that she would aspire to do great things and be an example to others. I ask that she not try to rush things, while at the same time, be able to run with the vision before her.
May 16 be a carefree and careful time when she can enjoy the present, while preparing for the future.
Happy Birthday, Mashenka!
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