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Pasha’s 16th Birthday

Today our second son turns 16.  We are so proud of how far he’s come in the four years that he’s been home from Russia.

Four years is the same amount of time that we fought for him, seeking to get him out of the orphanage penal system, one could say, where kids are basically penalized for the sins of their birthparents.  Pasha was Petya’s friend, and we could not leave him behind.

That made four extra years in the dyetsky dom, or about seven spent there altogether.  Not good.  The terms for these kids in Russian were basically “imbeciles” and “idiots”.  They assigned him an I.Q., that hey, why even bother?  It was as though they were doing him a favor to be place him in the double digits.

Today, he is quite good at math.  Wouldn’t that be ironic, if we were the ones to adopt the “idiot-savant”?  He possesses artistic and mechanical abilities, and has a heart to serve and help wherever needed.

Unfortunately, he reads and comprehends slowly and has a hard time with impulse control, so we constantly address that.  In most matters, he is quite literal.

“Pasha,” Benedetto was heard counselling him, “don’t put the cart before the horse.”

“I have no cart,” he replied in his heavy Russian accent.

“It’s a phrase, a way to say ‘first things, first.’”

“But I am not in race, I don’t need to be first….”

Though his brother is starting to drive, Pasha will not.  For a while.  Or forever.  For the good of humankind, as well as self-preservation.  How he would do on public transportation such as a bus or the metro would be interesting to explore.

So we choose to focus on what he can do, rather than the may-never-happen realities.  He’s becoming more involved in different art media, and in calligraphy.  Other than the fact that he works very slow-mo, he might one day become commercially successful.  Hard to say.  Pasha’s also starting some videography.  We’ll see if the creative juices flow in that direction.

His personal appearance is rather stunning.  He’s been stopped on the street as bystanders think he’s a Ralph Lauren model.  Women my age swoon over him, “He’s so handsome!” and I wonder how superficial they must be if they don’t realize he’s limited in the brain department.  Maybe he should model.

Most likely he’ll eat cake and bask in his day.  For now, that’s enough.

 

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6 Comments : Leave a Reply

  1. avatar Shelley says:

    I love how you can look on the bright side of their potential. I have a feeling that Pasha will turn out fine. How tall is he?

  2. avatar Sybil says:

    Happy Birthday to Pasha and may he have great times this year. Has he listened to a tape of the book he may need to read even if it is an academic book. This is such an enormous help for some academically challenged people. And by the way, my husband, who has been very successful in his career (sales) can hardly read or spell due to learning disabilities.

    • avatar admin says:

      Very encouraging, Sybil, thank you for being so honest and sharing that! This is Pasha’s first year doing homeschool with DVD lectures and books. Even with the DVDs, which may be paused for him to be able to take notes, he can listen but often has no recall. However, I must admit, while he doesn’t always apply himself, he keeps plugging along. I told him whether he has to get up early, or stay up late, that he’s going to move forward at the same pace as our 14 y.o. daughter. So there’s a little positive competition there that gets him going.

  3. avatar Greg says:

    Happy birthday Pasha! May you continue to glorify God in all that you do!

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