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Destinations, Dreams and Dogs - International adventure with a fast-track family (& dogs) of Old World values, adopting the Russian-Italian-American good life on the go…!

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Group Activities for Adopted Children

When newly-adopted, often children long for friends. That’s normal and to be expected. Unfortunately, those arriving from domestic or international situations generally do not know how to read local social situations. The kids can easily be preyed-upon by unsavory elements. In my opinion, this is why placing adopted children into school immediately remains less than…

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Catching Up on Missed Developmental Stages

Not all internationally-adopted children have missed developmental phases.  But many do.  Our four teens from Russia occasionally exhibit behaviors that their home-grown peers would not struggle with to the same extent.  Is it simple adolescence? Yes and no. Turns out that I haven’t read enough.  Much of the adoption literature out there deals with babies…

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Edited Blog

Today my blog was not launched early in the morning as it usually is.  This helps my foreign readers, as well as early risers, or night owls.  Nope. “Tech support”, who shall remain nameless, decided not to put it up into cyberspace.  Too controversial.  Too over-the-top. It was about triangulation in adoptees, how I as…

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How Are The Children? End of Year Update

Often, around Thanksgiving, I give a status update on our children from Russia.  Obviously, this year has been quite busy if I’m only getting around to it now-! Overall, we are very blessed.  Life is good 95% of the time. The children were adopted as preteens at ages 7.5, 11.5, 11, and 8.5.  They have…

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Adoptees Who Don’t Want Parents

Sadly, far too many adoptive parents don’t find out until it’s too late that some orphans simply don’t want parents.  At all.  Particularly those of the persuasion who practice hands-on parenting, not do-whatever-you-want-but-be-home-by-2:00-a.m. parents. These are kids, particularly the older ones (but not always), who have had to fend for themselves.  Could be on the…

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History Repeats Itself

Wasn’t it just a couple of weeks ago that our younger son headed out with us on a mini getaway and we arrived, to find him wearing the rattiest tennis shoes known to humanity?  Well, apparently I’m asleep on the job again…. (And all this from someone who just found that half of our daughters’…

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In One Ear….

I have fun friends.  They can relate.  They can identify. When Benedetto was telling yet another of his stories, one of my acquaintances shook her head, only imagining how I kept my wits.  She came to her own conclusion. “In one ear, and out the other,” she summed up, as she heard of the pandemonium…

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Happy Sweeties’ Day-!

For years, Valentine’s Day was about the two of us.  Not that we did anything major on that particular day other than small and special gifts.  Now, with four kids, it’s another matter entirely. While the two of us will most likely enjoy a lovely outing sometime in the near future, our oldest son has…

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His First Day at Work

Alright, so Petya went to work.  All of just 15 years old, he’s filling up his resume faster than Lucille Ball wrapping candy on the assembly line.  Never mind that he has three other volunteer jobs, a couple with very heady responsibilities, this was the one where he had to report to an actual office…

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Stop Copying Me!

Anyone with kids knows the frustration of a child who feels as though a friend or sibling mimicks their every move. “Stop copying me!” they exclaim in exasperation. It might be in mannerisms, speech, clothes, or special interest.  Being a trend-setter at a young age is not always easy. So the million-dollar question is:  how…