Uncovering the Issues
We as adoptive parents face issues in our children’s lives that would be so much easier to simply gloss over, than to deal with them. Yet, if we want them to be whole individuals, it’s going to call for some forward movement.
So, we engage in the delicate dance, the old two steps forward, one step backward. Or, if we want to be totally honest, it may be more like one step forward, two steps backward. The dance itself is therapeutic, if not for the ground covered and destination reached, then maybe for getting us out of the feel-good, feel-safe, fetal position.
What are the underlying issues, and what are the resulting reactions? It’s often hard to tell.
Yet, similar to a physical therapist who stretches out taut muscles which try to resist the best efforts, we slowly stretch the kids to venture beyond the comfort zone, uncovering issues, and regaining a full range of motion.
Exhausting at times, but hopefully, it will pay off.
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