What’s the Worst That Could Happen in Our Kids’ Future?
The worst that could happen? I’m a glass-half-full kind of gal, so it’s not hard to imagine when it comes to our kids in their late teens and early twenties. All but one seem determined to head nowhere… fast.
As you can probably tell, this is a continuation of the recent blog post, “Allowing a Son or Daughter to Crash and Burn”. Thank you for being my cheap therapy session as I spill all.
What’s the worst that could happen? Well, let’s see….
It’s been four years that I’ve been hammering away at the fact that they should be studying for the SAT exam, if not the PSAT. Every couple of months I get all worked-up, hot and bothered, tell them to prepare and ask why they are letting time and opportunity slip through their hands like the grains of sand in an hourglass?
They make excuses, say it’s too late to study, how can I expect them to engage in the hundreds of unusual life activities they undertake from finding a cure for cancer, to taking in dozens of rescue animals, to helping old ladies of the world cross the street, to apprehending cyber-gangs and credit card hackers in dozens of foreign languages, not to mention computer codes… and study for a mundane high school standardized test.
I argue that many kids engage in test prep, even those who were raised speaking English as their first language.
It matters nothing.
So what’s the worst?
They will not bring up their scores. They will become lazy, do-nothings. They will not find gainful employment beyond the most rudimentary. They will not go to college. They will live with us. They will be moochers the rest of their lives. They will resent us and drain us.
All of us will live miserably ever after.
I used to think that, as long as it’s not illegal, immoral, or unethical, a decent job at the hot dog stand would be just fine. I still hold to that notion, but I guess it’s the rationale behind it that irks me: not living up to one’s potential, not undertaking anywhere near one’s personal best, just hiding the head in the sand and making excuses for everything.
Not acceptable. But my pushing and prodding is getting us nowhere. Maybe a big step back will wake them up with the silence of uncertainty and spur them to action for their own future.
Not sure about that, but worth a try. For 24 hours or so, lol.
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