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What’s Your Child’s Future Look Like?

IMG_1304As adoptive parents, some of our kids have issues that have nothing to do with us.  While liberating in a sense (for us), for them, it could spell disaster:  poor executive function, nonexistent social skills and cues, problems with impulse control, reading comprehension that’s not even on the Richter scale.

On the other hand, most of the adoptive parents are college-educated, leaders of industry, or highly-respected in their community.  How do we come to grips with the idea that our children may be living with us, or in a group home, for the rest of their lives?

Our second son has struggles.  Already, he has achieved amazing things compared with what the “specialists” in IMG_1305Russia predicted.  He is somewhat “slow”, for want of a better word, when it comes to academics.  No, not delayed necessarily, but slow.  Slow to grasp, slow to comprehend, slow to see the big picture.  Mathematically, he does very well with any basic function, though the higher forms of math are challenging, too.  But he plods along.

Part of it is laziness, or maybe that’s the masquerading cover-up.  Anytime something becomes too hard, he would rather not even try.  He has a need to be the best, even if it’s in something that others may consider infantile.

So when it was Pasha’s birthday last November, I bought him sketching pads, pencils, and a calligraphy set.  But he’s been too busy to play around with them, despite our encouragement that he has a certain artistic flair.  As in IMG_1306anything else, he would need to apply himself, or give it a little practice.

And that’s asking too much.

At last, he pulled out the sketch pad and a sketch book with examples of animals.  Rather than go through the steps of the head, the body, the legs, etc., he glanced at the end result and drew it freehand.  This is a teen that we sent to a few “art” classes where they worked in a variety of media, however, those were more like classes where they thought about mismatched colors, and dimensions, and new ways of approaching standard themes.

I wanted them to work with him to draw flowers in a vase, or a head with semi-normal facial features.  But no, we IMG_1307got creative writing with paint brushes.

So Pasha has had no real training beyond looking at sketches and then taking pencil to paper.  No tracing.  These are his first, very first, attempts he knocked out in no time, while we were traveling in a bumpy car.

I think they’re pretty good.  No, in my opinion, they’re really great.  Suddenly, I feel like there may be hope for his future and that makes me happy.  I pray that he continue with it, and practice his craft, and have it become a daily passion and joy.

What do you foresee for your child?



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10 Comments : Leave a Reply

  1. avatar hoonew says:

    Wow! These are great!

  2. avatar ap says:

    Wow! WOW. These children just never cease to amaze us. Now if only we could get them to see what we see …..

  3. avatar Connie says:

    Holy cow these are good! He should definitely be encouraged as much as possible to draw or sketch. Pasha is definitely gifted in art and there are plenty of careers for people with this talent.
    You asked what we foresee in our children. No problems for my oldest she will most likely be a teacher, but my younger, who seems very much like Pasha, is dyslexic. For a long time, I worried myself silly about her future and only recently found a couple videos on youtube that made me calm down. I no longer expect good grades, but I expect her to try. She doesn’t learn the same way as other kids and I have to work with her more than I ever did with her sister. However, there is good news; most of the books on dyslexia say that people with dyslexia have a talent or at least something that they can do very well. So I’m trying to help her find her talent and I hope it’s something she can make into a career.

    • avatar admin says:

      Thanks, Connie. These are absolutely his first attempts, so I think it does show talent. I told him I want him to do two sketches per day (each take about 15 min. each). Since we’re on a mini-break this week, that’s definitely helping him not feel under pressure to do his homework that tends to take a long time. Maybe we’ll show them to a graphic artist friend of mine, so he can hear from an outsider that he should develop his talent…. 🙂

      That is so wonderful that you can see your daughters as individuals and encourage what they have to bring to the table. I’ve heard some pretty amazing stories about people with dyslexia. I hear you about getting info that helps you to calm down, lol! BTDT.

  4. avatar Winnie says:

    Wow those are REALLY good. I went to high school with a kid that was pretty talented – honestly not as good as Pasha in his teens and he’d had all the advantages available in the area (given that wasn’t much where we lived). The guy now works as a graphic designer and has some stuff in a few galleries. Frankly I’m jealous because I can’t even draw a stick figure properly.

    • avatar admin says:

      You and me both, Winnie! We showed the sketches to an artist-friend and she looked through his little book and made some pretty nice comments. She used to interview college grads and go through their portfolios and said this was really something for first attempts. She told him over and over how well his brain was working to be able to transfer what he sees before him and put it down on paper. He was beaming!

  5. avatar Cubby says:

    Just look at what Pasha can do!!! What an artist he is! I am so happy for his great artistic talent.

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